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Unkeeping for a friend
These were Lucy’s needles. She’s in her 90s now and unfortunately her macular degeneration has got to the point where she can’t see well enough to safely live alone anymore. She’s moving about 100 km away to a senior care place near where her daughter lives. My Mum and Lucy have been neighbours and friends…
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Final message
Do you have any on your phone? The last text or DM with someone who has since passed away? This one is to my friend Tom. We had dinner plans and I was texting him to chat about changing the day. But he was already in hospital. And died a few days later. I met…
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Unfriending the dead
Should I unfriend my ghosts on social media? I know a lot of dead people and increasingly, I come across their names and faces when I’m clicking about. It’s always a little jolt. The shape of a face, or even the way letters make up a name can evoke a memory wave of being near…
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Flossing
After Dad died, I organized his stuff. When I cleaned out his bathroom I found the dental floss he was using when he died. It was pretty new. So, I kept it and used it up. I allowed myself to believe using the floss gave me a special connection to him that would help establish…
